Love partnerships have been around since humans began. Whether you are religious or atheist humans are here to populate. As time has gone on most people see value in having a partner, if only to share lifes tough times. Today 42% of relationships finish in divorce, so we are perhaps not choosing right. Perhaps we are going on superficial things or physical things that do change over time. Or perhaps we concentrate so much getting the right person and find Mr/Ms perfect don’t exist.
Do we really know ourselves that well? Often, we are trying to choose a partner but do we really know ourselves.
In a series of surveys, organizational psychologist Tasha Eurich found that 95% of people think they’re self-aware, but only 10-15% truly are. She cites three reasons for this disconnect.
- First, we naturally have blind spots. We’re wired to operate on autopilot, unaware of how we’re behaving, and why.
- Second, there’s also the feel-good effect: we’re happier when we see ourselves in a more positive light.
- Thirdly, the “cult of self,” the idea that we’ve become more self-absorbed as social media has exploded in popularity.
A relationship is an indication that you and someone else have become a partnership. A healthy relationship is one in which you are able to work things out between the two of you as a team, even when you don’t agree with one another. It means that you’re both working toward the same goal, so there should never be a serious betrayal on either part .
Wondering if you’ve reached a relationship that’s partnership material? Here are the signs of a healthy relationship that signal you’re also in a true partnership – taken from https://www.yourtango.com/2016293239/15-signs-youre-in-partnership-not-just-relationship
1. Commitment isn’t an issue.
You aren’t begging him for a ring. He isn’t begging you to stay with him. You both have an understanding, and it’s one you’re thrilled with. Without a serious commitment, it’s not a partnership.
2. You both have the same goals in mind.
You both want the same things from life, which means there’s no need to bicker over who gets their way. It’s just understood — you both want it, and you both understand that there are no ulterior goals on the table.
3. Things are pretty even between the two of you.
In other words, it isn’t just one person giving and another taking; it’s an even partnership. You know what you’re expected to contribute, and you contribute it.
4. You don’t stonewall, discredit, or deal with one another passive-aggressively.
These behaviors are inherently toxic to relationships, and you just can’t have a real partnership with someone if they do this. If you can’t talk things out or feel safe around your partner, they aren’t your partner.
5. People consider you proof that love really does exist.
Though appearances can fool others, if you genuinely feel happy and content with the way things are, this can be an indicator that you have a serious partnership.
6. You know your partner has your back career-wise, and you have their back.
They’re your biggest cheerleader and will do what it takes to ensure you succeed. Similarly, you’re in their corner fighting for them, too.
7. You don’t have arguments, just discussions.
When you two want to talk things out, emotions don’t go bonkers. There’s no shouting, no screaming, no blowups, and no threats of divorce. You both work toward an awesome compromise. If you can’t compromise, you come up with a way to make it work.
8. At times, you are able to communicate things with just one look.
That’s a sign you really are on the same wavelength. You’re not just lovers — you’re best friends.
9. You consider him your best friend as well as the love of your life, and vice versa.
You legitimately enjoy his company, even on the roughest of days. When you get home from work, nothing quite beats drinking with your partner.
10. That being said, you know your roles and are both fine with them.
If you aren’t happy with your role in the relationship, it’s not a partnership. Hell, it probably isn’t a good relationship if you feel like you’re constantly doing stuff you don’t want to do.
11. You feel like you can talk to them about anything, even if it would be difficult for most couples to tackle.
It’s not just the two of you gabbing about what’s going on at work or what you just saw on Hulu. When you two are together, you can say anything you want knowing that you won’t be judged for it.
12. Though you know you can always count on one another, you don’t volunteer your love’s services or goods without asking them.
There’s a difference between a partnership and a mutual martyrdom. You actually respect one another enough to realize the difference.
13. You’ve been known to answer their phone for them, and vice versa.
Why? Because you trust each other that much and have nothing to hide.
14. The two of you always have incredible adventures — both in and out of the bedroom.
He’s the James to your Jesse. You’re the Bonnie to his Clyde. You’re partners in crime, and that leads you to amazing adventures and experiences.
15. If soulmates are real, you’re pretty sure you found yours.
And he’s your partner for life.