Adulthood and working
Welcome to the next stage of your Life Journey - adulthood and work. This is such a critical time, especially for younger adults. All those years in education (or not) about to pay off as we venture into the workplace. Putting to test all those life skills our parents drilled into us (or not) and standing on our own two feet as an adult. This can be the most stressful time (or depressing) and differs for everyone. But your past DNA and social environment and upbringing will determine how easy or difficult you make the transition.
This part of life’s journey covers nearly 40 years. We provide help and guidance, tips and best practice. Success secrets when mapping out your working life. Starting work life very much depends on what your education track was like. Check out our JobDrive. This drive leads up to working life and discusses the critical steps to take when you look at your career.
Here are some intital thoughts about adulthood and working. GO!
Here are some facts and stats about adulthood. GO!
We suggest life is like a boxing ring – you have several bouts – some you win, others you lose! GO!
Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me. True or false? GO!
Make the leap from education and childhood to work GO!
Choose the right path – take a look around you. GO!
Understand your natural characteristics and skills GO!
Between 20 and 40 it’s time to make your mark – but things can go wrong! GO!
Don’t try and take on too much – learn to spin plates! GO!
Some people seem to make life appear easy. See how. GO!
Do people come along and dump their sh*t in your bucket? GO!
Will or are you making hay while the sun shines? GO!
Take time to think how wonderful and beautiful life is. There’s a lot to be happy about! GO!
This is about getting into a relationship and knowing your partner GO!
Can you do something memorable that could be written on your headstone? GO!
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Some Initial Thoughts
Welcome to adulthood!
When we reach adulthood, we have to take on responsibilities – one of these is often having to earn money to support your family. This can include working – sometimes this is fulfilling, often it isn’t – it’s something we have to do to provide..
Not many people are lucky enough to work somewhere they enjoy – but a lot of it is about attitude.
“Don’t count the days – make the days count.” – Muhammad Ali
Facts about adulthood and working
Divorces in the UK each year in comparison to 270,000 marriages
on average during the pandemic by cutting out things like commuting and buying lunch out.
Source: https://www.finder.com/uk/working-from-home-statistics
in employment had done some work at home in April 2020 on average, as opposed to 26.7% of the workforce prior to the pandemic (ONS)
fell behind by one payment in 2020 – Citizens Advice
86% of Iceland population work a 4 day week
of parents had to cut budgets in order to ensure children did not go without.
of people had to use their savings to survive during the pandemic
65% of workers said they would be more productive in a home office than a normal office.
Life is like a boxing ring
Life in general can be quite tough and as an analogy you could describe life as a boxing ring. You cannot escape life. You know that you are likely to get a few punches along the way and some may be harder and more longer lasting than you think.
Life is a fighting a variety of boxers - some are monsters and punch hard whilst others are softer and you win those bouts.
The first punch you may get that will knock you on your back will be that day when you get a call unexpectedly and are told someone close to you has died. It’s a life punch that will send you reeling. No life preparation can help you - it’s just life.
You can have accidents, serious illnesses, work/friend/neighbour disputes that can affect your mental health. Relationship break-ups, work disasters etc all pile on mental health pressure and can leave people anxious and depressed by life’s battles.
In any boxing match there are also times when you can win.
Obviously, parents and the establishment want to protect children until they are old enough and able enough to cope with life’s punches, battles and disappointments. Since WW2 progressively children have been protected even more from the harsh reality of life.
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If you ask most children growing up in the baby boomer years and generation x many would say it was life’s school of knocks. The calling of names hurt momentarily and when you went home your parents quoted the proverb. In the 60s,70s and 80s children did experience prejudice, ism’s of all kinds – tall, short, fat, thin, colour of skin or not, dimples, freckles, glasses, hair colour, spots, actually anything. But people learned that children and adults can be cruel. But it didn’t kill you and you got on with life because in those days’ life wasn’t always that easy. So, when becoming an adult in the workplace and on our first day we get called lanky, shorty, ging; we’ve heard it all before and people laugh it off in good spirit and its like; Water off a duck’s back, or is it?
Wrapping children in cotton wool does them no favours for when they enter life’s boxing ring. Is this why so many young adults claim to have mental health issues? Is it really mental health issues or is it life issues that they cannot cope with? Could it not be that everyone has life issues its just some people deal with them more constructively than others.
Some would say learning about how hard life can be at a younger age is an important character-building event that helps prepare teens for becoming adults and helps them develop coping strategies.
In society today we are mindful of creating a kinder world and for many years this doctrine has been promoted in life and government but yet in 2022 Twitter and other social media platforms clearly demonstrate that humans aren’t that nice no matter how they were handled and managed as a child. The ability to viciously attack someone from your bedroom often anomymously shows that humans have this trait as an instinct. Therefore, do we control the masses for the few bad eggs.
In the 60s, 70s, 80s we were told get out there and win do your best and try to win that game, race, cup, prize and competition but from the 90s it changed to its not about winning its about taking part that counts!!! Is that really the case, so to save face for those who didn’t win when in life people have to learn to lose and win and it’s not nice to lose but losing makes winning all that much better and encourages people to keep trying.
Carecheck say: “Safeguarding is a vital process that protects children and adults from harm, abuse, and neglect. The safety and wellbeing of adults and children is important as they come into contact with the services that schools and workplaces provide.
If your business works with children and/or vulnerable adults, strict safeguarding policies must be in place. Every person should live their lives without harm, no matter the age, gender, ethnicity or religion. It’s vital that every vulnerable child and adult is kept safe.
Organisations such as schools, hospitals, care homes and charities will have safeguarding procedures in place. Other types of workplaces must also have a plan in place to ensure all staff are looked after appropriately. For every person to be safe under your care, employees must be trained adequately so they can carry out safeguarding duties as expected.
You must be vigilant for potential signs of abuse and neglect because missing them would be catastrophic. If an organisation has poor safeguarding policies or no safeguarding in place could lead to:
Abuse and neglect being missed.
An increase in abuse cases.
Vulnerable people not being treated with compassion or empathy.
Increased confusion and distress for suffering individuals because they have no one to turn to.
A complete loss of dignity and autonomy for vulnerable adults.”
Making the leap from full time education to work life
It's hard
There’s just so much change in the world today, so the job of preparing young people for the future has become increasingly difficult. The Institute of the Future issued a report in 2017 that said that 85 percent of the jobs in 2030—when today’s school kids will leave school—have not been invented yet. We’re also facing an unfolding crisis in the environment; rampant (or perceived) racial, ethnic, and gender inequities; the impending emergence of bioengineering and artificial intelligence; and escalating craziness on the geopolitical stage.
Scientific evidence reveals that slower, strategic transitions to adulthood can be beneficial and that family and other types of support are crucial in determining how young people fare. Let’s look at some ideas.
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When you become a young adult, your life is wide open with endless opportunities around you. Living at home for example gives you a springboard to save some cash and give you time to decide what you want to do. People who get themselves trapped or have reduced options at an early age can get very disheartened and depressed if their lifestyle is impeding their career options.
Buying a house is a major commitment and if you wanted to change jobs or careers that maybe more difficult because you have too many commitments. This can lead to frustration and anxiety. So think before committing yourself.
Being an adult is harder than you think and your parents often made it look easy. People often say when they get to 40 ‘I look back and thought my parents had an easy life, they just made it look easy, when in actual fact working fulltime in a career and bringing up a family is tough. Just leaving home and doing everything for yourself and in some instances living with another person can be overwhelming.
We should add those parents who let their children work from 10 years old with paper rounds, shop/restaurant work, stables etc. any job involving responsibility, discipline and interaction with adults will make the teenager transition to adult working life a lot simpler and less stressful.
Your first work placement can be very stressful for many young adults some people get overwhelmed with the whole thing and get anxious and depressed. Many turn to their doctor for help. Many doctors will give you medication rather than truly find out why you feel the way you do. There are many internet based and support organisation you can talk to instead of taking additive medication. The reality is medication does not solve the problem it just subdues your real feelings. There is such a thing as CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) courses which you can attend. But as a first step talk to your family and friends about how you feel. You will find for sure you are not the first or only one. Everyone has experienced it as some stage in their lives.
Medication is not the answer to anxiety and stress
As a new adult you may have never been prepared for life as an adult or as we discussed previously you may not have a high level of emotional intelligence. Some teenagers are ready emotionally to enter the work place and leave home and become independent but many are not. There is nothing negative about this, as people mature at different stages and rates. It could be said many parents neglect this part of the training and think their children just grow into an adult and can cope. Many parents have positively prepared their teenagers with adult training and support and helped them to deal with the often-hard world of adulthood and work / life. But many parents haven’t done their kids any favours and have negatively shielded their teenagers (sometimes inadvertently and not deliberately) from the rigours of adult life. There is an increasing group of pre- and post-millennial young adults who have gone to the doctors suffering from depression and anxiety. Statistics show that the number of pre and post Millennials young adults visiting the doctor for anxiety and stress has gone up by 30% in the last five years.
Don’t promise your teenager that they are special and can have anything in life
Parents need to recognise that they may have brought their children up to want for nothing and promised them the earth, not realising that many teenagers retain that desire as adults and find out that life can be pretty tough standing on their own two feet.
The workplace can be extremely nerve wracking for young adults as there are no filters. Adult work colleagues will treat the young adult as an adult and don’t hold back. This could be shocking and many young adults come home and say OMG it’s awful the people are really rude or they are poking fun at me and it can be very daunting.
Since the millennium schools and education establishments have spent a lot of time protecting children from other children’s name calling – effectively wrapping them in cotton wool – only to find the shock of their life when they become young adults and get into the work place.
Communication is key to helping teenagers make that transition although it can be hard.
Action for children have a report you can download below which is about growing up – supporting young people becoming adults.
Choosing the right path – take a look around you
They say 25 to 45 is the period when you need to make it in whatever you’re doing. Formal education has finished and now it’s time to make your money and build your career. During this period, you need to make as much money as you can. Money isn’t everything but it does give you more options especially if you decide to change careers or buy a business later in life then a support pot of money can help.
From a career perspective you would hope to have made some good inroads up the career ladder by this time and got into a position whereby from there you can springboard into senior management or qualify as an expert in your field.
In today’s world the working career can be from 20 to 70 – a whole 50 years. During this time, we will be focused on life and earning. Maybe starting a family or buying a house. We tend to be totally engrossed in making it in life. Often what happens is we forget the basics; who we are and what made us happy. There’s the old saying; all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. This is so true. If you speak to anyone who has already made the journey, they will tell you; ‘trust me 20 years flies by and you don’t realise’.
We have said life is a journey not a destination, you can’t go back and rerun it.
Therefore making it hard working but enjoyable is the key to a successful life. There are many people today who are successful and surround themselves with material things that they think makes them happy, but it doesn’t. You often see famous footballers or actresses owning 25 cars and think what do they want with all those cars. Well, it’s often like a short-lived drug shot and makes them happy. When it’s worn off, they are looking for the next thing to buy to stimulate happiness.
Internal happiness that is free and costs nothing is better. The ability to watch the sun rise or set or listen to the birds in the trees is a beautiful thing, and it costs nothing. But having said this if materialism does make you happy and it helps you feel fulfilled in life then there’s nothing wrong with it.
Understanding myself, my characteristic and natural skills – know yourself
Knowing who you are, what you like or don’t will help you determine the right career path. If you are in doubt also look at your parents’ characters and disposition and think will I be like that at 40? There are clues to help you but you need to look.
Success suggest that to know yourself you should:
Be quiet. You cannot and will not be able to discover yourself until you take the time to be still. ...
Realize who you truly are, not who you want to be. ...
Find what you are good at (and not good at). ...
Find what you are passionate about. ...
Ask for feedback. ...
Assess your relationships...
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Learning about yourself will help you choose the right path
How many of us really know who we are? What makes us sad, happy, angry, and frustrated? Are we quick to temper or happy with life, and do we stand up for ourselves or allow others to take advantage? Why do we do the things we do and react the way we do? Why do we like to be liked or why do we feel down and depressed? Knowing who we are is a learning journey.
We should never stop learning
Even when we get into our fifties and we think we know ourselves we find out something new. We look back and think I knew what I was like when I was thirty but in hindsight I didn’t know that much, and also, I’ve changed since then. Do we ever stop and think what traits do I have? I know I have inherited my mother’s medical condition but did I also inherit her caring disposition? Or am I a bit pig-headed like my grandfather used to be – he would cut his nose off to spite his face. We can learn a lot about ourselves by just looking in the mirror.
Humans convince themselves they are someone else
Often humans can play tricks on themselves and even create a persona they think they are but everyone else sees someone very different. The start of singing talent show when a person claims they sing better than a world class singer but the 7 million people watching soon learn otherwise. Why is that?
Because humans can create an image of themselves and over time begin to believe this is who they are. Often behind the mask there is an insecure person often suffering from low self-esteem.
Tab4: Richard Carlson wrote a book called Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and It’s All Small Stuff – simple ways to keep the little things from Taking Over Your Life – it’s sold over 25 million copies – see a summary here.
Richard Carlson wrote a book called Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and It’s All Small Stuff – simple ways to keep the little things from Taking Over Your Life – it’s sold over 25 million copies – see a summary here.
Between 20 and 40 its time to make your mark
Between 20 and 40 its time to make your mark but things don’t always go smoothly.
Things often don’t go to plan during your early years and you need to be adaptable and always ready for change. Most adults appear to stop formal learning at 22 and then get on with life. Learning to keep learning is imperative if you wish to become successful. Below are some helpful points about how to remain alert and aware of life changes.
Don’t overstretch yourself
Don’t overstretch yourself financially/physically or emotionally because if change comes and you cannot manoeuvre around the obstacles set in your way you could have big problems. People have a habit of earning good money and then start; splashing the cash, taking out credit and credit cards and then one day boom you lose your job or you have a serious accident that stops you earning or earning as much but the credit still needs to be repaid. Build your cash reserves and split your eyeline into today and tomorrow. Focusing too much on the future will lead to a loss of focus on today. It’s a fine balance.
We build our lives step by step brick by brick progressively over time. But if we get carried away with our success we want more and spend more. 120,000 people went personally bankrupt in 2019 and 150,000 in 2020 and its steadily increasing. Credit in the UK is so easy to obtain because the lenders put the responsibility of lending on the creditor. So try to avoid exposing yourself and losing everything you have built.
Learn to spin plates
Life often feels like plate spinning when you have so many things to do. If fact some people often take on more plates and run up and down the line trying to keep all the plates spinning. Eventually something will give; either we collapse and all the plates crash to the ground or a few plates crash but we manage to keep others spinning. This is all about not over stretching yourself in any matter or situation. The next section talks about focus, if we focus on spinning the main plates in our life [ each plate can be a factor, item, task, issue, relationship etc] we can cope well, but sometimes we need to add more, which is fine in the short term but over an extended period we can lose focus on our main plates or priorities and they can if not watched carefully start to crash and burn.
Often people take on too many tasks or issues in life and when we lose focus things go wrong. Sometimes you have to let some plates go, to enable you to carry on with the other plates.
People who suffer with stress and anxiety have a vast number of plates spinning at the same time and wonder why they cannot cope. Taking control of your life and learning to spin the right number of plates and keep harmony in your life is a starter to controlling you stress and anxiety levels.
It’s all about Focus
Look how we appreciate, admire sports people who are top of their game. We stand in awe of their skill and expertise. The old saying: they make it look so easy.
Often what comes with the level of expertise is a total dedication and focus to the expertise. Everyday training and focus. In the world of work, it’s the same. If we don’t give focus and dedication to our work expertise, we will find standards slip and we lose momentum. The problem for the majority of humans is distraction and span of attention. Most humans love habits but that does not mean focus. Our brain has the great ability to subconsciously do mundane tasks without us even thinking too much.
Another old saying is; you cannot take your eye off the ball otherwise you will miss it. Work and careers are the same. We go to work earn good money and then we surround ourselves with material distractions. In fact, not just sports but any discipline that people excel will tell you its all about focus and dedication. If we get distracted the things slip and we lose our edge.
A good example of this is a business person who has a failing business shouldn’t buy another business to compensate as all this leads to is a defocus from the main business. The main business needs more focus not less.
The Sod All box
On your life journey you are busy getting on with life, working, building a life or family. Stresses and frustrations also become part of everyday life and we start to let them fill our heads. Here is a simple technique that helps you learn how to manage issues or problems in your life and surrounding areas of your life.s.
In life we will encounter many issues and problems and often devote brain time worrying about them. The reality is often that some the problems or issues we get anxious about we can do absolutely nothing about therefore why worry about something that you cannot do anything about.
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A great example for living your life is the sod all box.
There are some things in life you can control. This is about you. You can control what actions you take, what you say and, with awareness, what you think and how you react to events.
There are also some things you can influence. Casting your vote in an election, influence a group or party, or individual. You can also influence others and their behaviour through your own.
Finally, there’s the ‘sod all’ box, which contains all those things you can’t do anything about.
The sun coming up and sun going down. Time. The tide. Death.
There are things in life you cannot do anything about. So ask yourself when a frustrating situation occurs;
Can I control it: yes or no
Can I influence it or anyone else: yes or no
Therefore, it must be in the box I can do absolutely nothing about
You can’t win every battle- so choose which ones
We all have battles, conflicts, goals, arguments or objectives we want to win, either in work or personnel. One thing is clear and talk to all top persons and they will tell you. When you want to get your own way or win a battle or objective you need to decide which ones you want to win and ones you are happy to lose or compromise on. You cannot win all battles there are too many and its exhausting. Choosing the right battle said arguments to win and getting behind them.
Learning to read situations and deciding which situation you will invest your time in and win the day. This also means you don’t worry over those things that are not important to you.
Life sh*t bucket
Lets start by saying everyone has one and dependent on how you run your life and deal with life’s Sh*t depends on how full it gets.
Some people have wonderful tidy and clean Sh*t buckets. Some have their lives so well and truly together that they have a lid on it and it works really well.
But some people have so much self induced sh*t that they trade in their sh*t bucket at the shop for a sh*t bin. You must also know those people who have car crash lives and go one step further and trade up further for a sh*t skip.
Making hay whilst the sun shines
The saying make hay while the sun shines mean you have to make the most of the time period to get ahead when conditions are ideal. 25 to 50 is the time to make this happen. It’s also a time when we are building relationships and even starting a family so it can be extremely stressful.
Life begins at 40 or does it?
Does life really begin at 40? I guess it’s down to the individual. The saying comes from a time when parents married at 20 and had grown up children by the time, they were forty. Most certainly by the time you’re forty you should be established and life should be reasonably stable and progressing, hopefully with a better financial situation than when you were in your 20s. But today many children are staying at home into their 30s and parents are working into their 70s, so things have changed.
Ideally life should really begin (assuming the meaning is supposed to be you taking charge of your life and making it more positive and uplifting) as a child and hopefully your parents provided a balanced happy upbringing.
Even if not, when you become an adult, you’re in charge and life should begin then. You’re in charge of your life from there and making the best of it is down to you. If you choose to get your head down and not look up until you retire then that’s your choice.
Alternatively, you could say life is a journey and not a destination and I need to balance my life with work and pleasure. I need to ensure I live a healthy lifestyle and keep myself in check for the long journey and enjoy the journey. After all how many of us would go on a long journey and never look out of the window and at the last minute look up as we arrive. Just think what you would have missed.
In the 50s,60s,70s,80s the philosophy was to grow up, get a job, work hard, find a partner, buy a house, have a family, go on holiday once/twice a year, pay off your mortgage, get rid of your kids, retire and then die. Often education stopped at 22 including self-education and was replaced with work focus. Today this thinking is getting challenged and has definitely changed. People are finding ways of working differently the words work life balance enters the equation and people are now seeing the folly of that lifestyle. There wasn’t anything wrong with it but for many people all that happened was they grew up. They worked, they had annual holidays and then retired, often had ill health and then died. Many are saying today there has to be more to life than this.
Life is so wonderful and magical
Whilst we have to work to live, eat, provide shelter and have a family it has to be a balance. You hear stories of people never leaving the town they grew up in, work until retirement, have 5 years of gardening then get ill health and die at 75. This is not unusual it is UK life in general. So how is it changing. Well children are staying at home until much later. Parents are having children in their 40s and work life balance is embedded in work culture now. In the UK we have a strong work ethic and when you include work travel it means we are out of the home 10 hours a day. Some comparable countries such as France, The Netherlands, Denmark don’t share the same work ethic. The French have more public holidays than any other country. The Netherlands averages a 33-hour working week and Denmark try to operate a 4-day week. But these economies work just as efficiently as the UK. Iceland now offers a 4-day working week for anyone who wants it.
Lessons learned
During the pandemic we saw lockdowns and working from home developed. Strangely during this time, we found that climate change indicators returned to below average due to the lack of travel. So, if we worked more from home than at an office in a city, we can reduce our carbon footprint and save office space which could be converted in living accommodation. 85% of homeworkers indicated they would prefer a work from home and infrequently visit the office policy and that work line balance increased by 68% according to the ONS.
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy
well, that saying has been proved over and over again. So life is for living not just working. So, our suggestion is to think deeply and take time out to think through your life strategy. Consult with family and friends. Talk to older people who have lived a life, not necessarily the one you want to live but they will have experienced life’s twists and turns.
Don't wait for life to happen
This video from Peter Sage at Ted Talks is about stopping waiting for life to happen. It is 17 minutes long, but it’s interesting to cover emotion, logic and connections. We found this video fascinating - when you consider the trials of history it's remarkable that we're not only alive at a wonderful time but feeling the stresses of that time.
It asks and answers the question: What's the ultimate app?
Time Flies
Ask anybody who is 75 about when the time flies the fastest and they generally will say it gets faster as you get older, so don’t get caught out and make the most of it. Many people are so busy working that time fly’s past and before you know it, you’re 65 and thinking of retirement. When you are in your 40s and 50s those people who have a hobby or talent could enjoy it, or even turn it into a part time business. It is a brilliant way to make that transition from full time work to vocational lifestyle.
Over 90% of 35- to 55-year-olds wished they could change occupation. [Guardian]. Therefore, it makes sense if you have an interest you start to work to achieve your goals early on and when the time is right making your move. If you have worked for 30 years and you want to make the move don’t knee jerk. It could take 5 years to make the move but eventually you can do – with the right planning.
According to the Department for Business self-employed survey the three main reasons for self-employment are; flexibility, independence, and job satisfaction. The survey also said 20% of employees commenced self-employment whilst employed. The self-employed feel their lives are better overall and over half think they are better off financially
• 84% thought their life overall was better in self-employment compared with being an employee and over half believe they are better off financially than they would be as an employee.
Getting into a relationship - knowing your partner
During the journey we will meet someone special. Someone who we get on with, share the same philosophy on life and perhaps have similar characteristics. Often in the early adult years our dating shopping [wish list] list is perhaps quite basic and limited, ask anyone in their 50s who is on the dating scene and they will tell you the list is a lot longer having had a lifetime of experience knowing what the like, want and don’t want from a partner.
Remember people change
What formed their views, opinions, attitudes and beliefs were engrained in their mind before you met and before they had a lot of life experiences. So, choosing someone who has a cup half empty attitude or a lack of ambition is not good to someone who is a cup half full and a go getter. Check out our relationshipDrive to learn about the veneer. Some people will tell you what they think you want to hear and will match your behaviour but deep down they are different.
Once you have children you are bonded at the hip for at least 20 years. If children come along during your relationship remember that adds another plate to spin and if you fall out with your partner you have no choice but get on for the sake of the children. Strangely some people think when their relationship is on the rocks a baby will bond them together, absolutely not, never no.
The other important factor when choosing a partner is to think DNA. If we start a family, what offspring are we likely to create. A quick review of each other’s family history will give you indicators; such as mental health, medical wellness, attitude history, characteristics, etc. I know many will say yes but love is more important and chemistry, true it is but you should not dismiss the other parts. There is not magic formula for choosing the right partner but you can put some effort to getting it even partially right.
10 Tips for Choosing the Right Partner
Find someone who you can connect with easily
Don’t make choices out of fear: So many times people either choose a partner or stay with someone in an unhappy relationship predominantly out of some kind of fear.
Be careful of jumping into a committed relationship right off the start mark
Give people a chance that you normally wouldn’t give a chance to
Have a flexible check list that is for guidance rather than absolute
Look for qualities that are the foundation of a good partnership
Don’t let lust be your guide
Don’t confuse an “emotional roller coaster” with being crazy about
Find someone you can be yourself around
Don’t keep waiting for something to change that obviously won’t
Have fun!
What will it say on your gravestone?
What will they write on your headstone?
All of us can’t be Einstein or Copernicus but we can all make the best of our lives as we can. If you ever visit a cemetery, you see the endless headstones with the same messages. We all can make an impression on this earth so our time is not forgotten and we can mark this. Be it helping others, saving someone’s life, and Adventurer, and explorer, a hobbyist. Leaving a lasting impression on those we leave behind is so important.
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The Art of Being a Brilliant Teenager
Calling all teenagers—quit the moaning and start loving life!
The Art of Being A Brilliant Teenager teaches you how to become your very best self—and how to figure out who that is, exactly.
Taking Charge of Your Career
The Essential Guide to Finding the Job That’s Right for You
This action-oriented and pragmatic book will help you overcome the barriers to deciding on a career and changing career, giving you a proven roadmap to achieve your goals.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff:
Simple ways to Keep the Little Things from Overtaking Your Life: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life
So many of us would like to live our lives in a calmer and less stressful way, and be able to let go of our problems. This is the book that can show you how to stop letting the little things in life drive you crazy.
Learning to Lead, Leading to Learn:
Lessons from Toyota Leader Isao Yoshino on a Lifetime of Continuous Learning
In the international bestselling book Learning to Lead, Leading to Learn, leadership coach Katie Anderson and Toyota leader Isao Yoshino bring you a remarkable book about what it means to learn, to lead, and to care
Spinning Plates
Tips, Thoughts and Ideas for Juggling Work, Parenting and Home
Spinning Plates has around 800 tips, starting with ideas for working while pregnant, looking after emotional needs and relationships, arranging child care, deciding whether to return to work or not and tackling issues of confidence.
A Few Wise Words:
Stories of success and inspirational advice from 22 extraordinary individuals
A Few Wise Words is the perfect guide for young people, young adults (and older adults too) on how to prepare for our personal journey towards success, purpose, and fulfilment in life.
Eliminate Negative Thinking
How to Overcome Negativity, Control Your Thoughts, And Stop Overthinking. Shift Your Focus into Positive Thinking, Self-Acceptance, And Radical Self Love.
Spinning Plates has around 800 tips, starting with ideas for working while pregnant, looking after emotional needs and relationships, arranging child care, deciding whether to return to work or not and tackling issues of confidence.
Too Many Reasons to Live
The huge Sunday Times number one bestselling inspirational memoir from rugby league legend Rob Burrow on his extraordinary career and his battle with motor neurone disease.
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships
The legendary relationships guide that mothers recommend to their daughters, friends give as gifts and brothers steal from their sisters, MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS is inarguably the definitive book on having a happy relationship.
The Working Dad’s Survival Guide
How to Succeed at Work and at Home Paperback
Hey Dad! Ever felt torn between advancing in your career and spending quality time with family? The Working Dad’s Survival Guide is for you.
