Healthy Ageing

Well, by this time in your life you should hopefully have had two stages of balanced life. When you retire it will be like starting all over again. It will be a major shock to your habitual system and making adjustments will be hard.

Initially most people spend their initial period doing all the things that you couldn’t do whilst working. But after a while you will achieve those short-term goals.

The next part can be as difficult as working – that is planning your life, schedules, creating new habits and interests. Organising a busy retirement can be hard work and require a lot of effort. The easy thing is to stay in and watch TV and not to socialise. The lifestyle indicator now is totally in your control so you can develop a plan containing healthy eating, regular exercise, socialising and new experiences and locations. Also developing interests with other people.

More and more people are turning to technology to communicate and keep in touch. In the recent Covid-19 crisis many people over 70 who were asked to isolate took more time out to learn technology on their computers and phones in order to stay in touch with loved ones and family and friends.

Here are some initial thoughts about healthy ageing. GO!

Here are some facts and stats  about healthy ageing. GO!

You hear about the ‘golden years’ – what are they? GO!

As you get older yo have to decide when or if to retire. GO!

See how you can achieve your golden years GO!

If you want to achieve your golden years, you’d better start planning.  GO!

You should aim to stay fit and healthy  GO!

As you grow older you should try to remain young at heart  GO!

Keeping a young outlook involves keeping the right company  GO!

Some examples of how people have started living the dream  GO!

As you get older, there are some things you must attend to  GO!

As you get older it’s possible you’ll need a helping hand  GO!

One good thing to do as you get older is write your memoirs GO!

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Some Initial Thoughts

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A view of life

As you get older things start to change, and sometimes this isn’t what we’d planned. We can start to become infirm and need more care, and it’s important that we have someone to look after us.

“As you get older three things happen. The first is your memory goes, and I can’t remember the other two.”

Sir Norman Wisdom

healthy ageing relationship

Ageing and health

WHO defines healthy ageing as “the process of developing and maintaining the functional ability that enables wellbeing in older age.” Functional ability is about having the capabilities that enable all people to be and do what they have reason to value.

People worldwide are living longer. Today most people can expect to live into their sixties and beyond. Every country in the world is experiencing growth in both the size and the proportion of older persons in the population.

- Between 2015 and 2050, the proportion of the world's population over 60 years will nearly double from 12% to 22%.
- By 2020, the number of people aged 60 years and older will outnumber children - younger than 5 years.
In 2050, 80% of older people will be living in low- and middle-income countries. The pace of population ageing is much faster than in the past. All countries face major challenges to ensure that their health and social systems are ready to make the most of this demographic shift.

Facts about healthy ageing

average age
1 years old

68.5 is the average age for a heart bypass operation

average age
1 years old

68 years old is the average age a person is diagnosed with stomach cancer

retirement age
1 years old

Age of a person in the UK stop working in full time occupation. ITM survey

average income
£ 100

Income of over 50s retired income, compared to earned income of £2,375

Regular sex
40%

of people in the 60-79 year old age group still report having sex on a regular basis. (Promescent)

64 year old women
22.5%

Of surveyed women average age 64 said they were in a sexual relationship EDH.

Global oldies in 2030
16.4%

By 2030, the number of people over 60 will have increased to 1.4 billion or 16.4% of world population and by 2050, it will have increased to 2.1 billion or 21.3% of the global population. WHO

UK centenarians
85%

The number of centenarians living in the UK has increased 85% in the past 15 years (ONS,
2018f).

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What are the Golden Years?

The golden years we assume are those periods when the stresses of work life are reduced or the financial burden on people have reduced. But it isn’t always the case. There is an assumption after 40 years of working that you have lived a life and are wiser and smarter, reduced your indebtedness and have banked some cash or have a decent pension. The problem with most people is when they are making good earnings, they tend to spend it, especially in the UK because we are a nation of borrowers and not savers.

Golden years mean different things to different people. In fact, some people say that all your years are golden or you should try to make them golden. People say I’m going to go on holiday every other month and enjoy life. Most people after a few years of going on holiday and drinking fine wines and food often look for something else more stimulating and fulfilling. The usual outcome of this lifestyle results in obesity and gout!

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Retire or work?

Let’s get real - people in their 60s and early 70s is most would carry on working in some capacity or other if they thought they could dictate their own hours, days and who they work with. Often, if you love your job and the people are around you are great then people don’t want to leave or retire and the chance to carry on in a more flexible role would be jumped at.

Today many people in their 60s think they are too young to retire and stop working, stop the drive and thrust of working and the stimulation of working with others, especially those who enjoy their jobs. In fact, these types consider they are in their golden years because they don’t need to work but do for the enjoyment and companionship. On the other hand, there are those who don’t like their jobs, never really liked their jobs, hate the people they work with and can’t wait to finish work and retire. 12% of retired people experienced loneliness in the year.

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How to achieve the golden years

There isn’t an exact path or strategy to achieve the golden years.

Everyone is different. One person will spend every other month holidaying on a foreign beach whilst another will work full time in an animal charity shop knowing they are giving something back. Some people volunteer to work in third world countries and at the same time enjoy the aspect of living a new life in a foreign country.

Click the picture for a video with Nora's thoughts on retirement.

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Better get planning then

For some just carrying on working doesn’t really require a lot of planning, you just carry on; but if you are one of life’s lucky people who really enjoy their work then you need to start planning the last quarter of your life. Take a look at RetirementDrive for all the options and ideas for later life changes.

20% of retired people in the UK have mobility disability. Nobody wants to get to 70 and find themselves disabled as a result of a lifetime of excessive sports activity, repetitive strain injuries and gout, especially if the person is very active mentally as well as physically. So take care of your body and avoid excessive anything when you are younger.

Better healthcare and living standards mean more people are living longer. When the NHS was founded 70 years ago, people lived an average of five years beyond the state retirement age. Even with a higher pensionable age, that average is now 15 years. The Government said we need to support older people to stay healthy, active and independent for as long as possible.

Staying fit and healthy

Staying fit and healthy has never been more important. Trying to keep fit and keeping to a good weight helps a lot. Making sure you eat a real balanced diet of food each week. Staying fit and walking, jogging, swimming, or recreation clubs are a great way of meeting people as well as keeping fit. Regular exercise improves cardio vascular areas, helps digestion and can stave off dementia..

Hydration is vital when you’re getting on Start drinking mineral or spa water or filter tap water. Just look at your garden to see the difference – we water our gardens from the tap and the plants, trees and shrubs survive but don’t really boom, but the moment we get 2 days of rain the vegetation comes alive. Imagine that’s what it can do for you. Check our WaterDrive. Medical professional say dehydration can be a killer and lead to a multitude of different ailments all that can have serious consequences.

FitnessDrive provides information on staying fit, and WaterDrive provides information on staying hydrated.  There is a Daily Express article on how exercise can stop dementia

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As you get older, what can you do to stay ‘young at heart’?

If you think you’re old you will be - Positive Mental Attitude.
PMA – positive mental attitude. If you talk to people in their 90s and ask them the secret to a life, they say stay positive and never give in to old age. When you get old you ache more, get tired quicker and don’t have the energy you used to have but that doesn’t mean you need to give in and sit in a chair for ever and a day. Keep active and focused on a sport or pastime and when you feel down, get up and get going. Force yourself to get moving and don’t let it debilitate you.

One of the many things we forget about is our age and sometimes physically overdoing it can cause a few issues. Pacing yourself and making sure you stop for regular drinks and a snack to keep up your blood sugar level and energy is good. As we get older the body can lose energy faster and it can be harder to recover therefore take care of yourself and heed the warning signs.

See a BBC article on gardening and how it could help you live to 100 here

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Having a cup half full attitude makes all the difference

Naturally age does bring with it medical conditions and it can be very draining mentally and physically. It’s good for family members to remember this and try to keep older parents positive and help create a positive environment. Understanding and patience are critical in supporting elderly people. Remember you have no idea how it must feel to be old when you’re younger. The thought you are in the last part of your life can often feel depressing for some. Supporting elderly relatives, getting them involved in the family and looking after grandchildren helps them take their minds off their situation and give them something else to focus on; often just feeling your needed for something is enough to lift someone’s spirit

Married to a cup half empty retired person?

If you have a young mind and a cup half full attitude on life you are doomed to a life of frustration if your partner has an old mind and a cup half empty attitude.

Divorce rates in the UK

55- to 64-year-old 43% those 65 to 74 years at 39%. For adults ages 75 or older, the rate is lower at 24%. Why would people spend a lifetime together and then get divorced? Some people live together during their working life and have children and stay in the marriage for the sake of the children. Others made it to retirement because they spent most of their lives working and living and actually didn’t spend that much time together, but when retirement comes, they are both together 24/7 and they may not even like each other at all.

Is it a problem being married to an opposing person who sees life as half empty and has an old-fashioned brain and basically has retired and is now waiting for God? Brain age is covered in MindDrive.

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Do you have a young mind and outlook?

Some people in their 60s and 70s have a very young brains and outlook and often cannot relate to people of their own age. They don’t think great I’ve retired time to take it easy, they think I’m free to do so many things I couldn’t do when working, no shackles at all and now is the time to really live my life. Whilst some old-fashioned retired minds are planning out how many cars they will need before they give up driving all together to modifying the garden to make it easier to maintain or even moving house to be closer to bus route or closure to shops so they won’t need a car..

Cup half full don’t even mention the words pensioner, cup half empty constantly reminds you they are. Some celebrate that they don’t need to pay for medication any more whilst others see it as another nail in the coffin. Some mean pensioners relish the free bus passes whilst others see it as a stigma on age. Cup half full are always planning the next project no matter how small whereas the Cup half empty won’t accept visitors on a Monday as this is wash day.

Mentally young people

Those people who have PMA and a positive outlook on life tend to push themselves more; stimulating physical and mental activity. Trying to stay young and youthful. They tend to mix with people who are younger than themselves as this is where their brains feel most comfortable and they gel with people at a younger age group whereas those retirees with old mindsets shy away from younger people and noise and look for people with a similar mindset in the opposite direction in order to share illness records, talk about life when it was better and swap funeral plan ideas.

young and old ladies
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Keeping your brain fit and active

Many medical professionals say keeping the brain active is essential to having a healthy old age. If you can have mental and / or physical activity such as playing bowls, darts, badminton, snooker or golf, it provides great stimulus needed to keep healthy. Getting involved with young people or looking after grandchildren, other children or helping out at school keeps you feeling young and vibrant. Joining a youth club as a volunteer can be so rewarding for young and old; passing and sharing information between the ages is great.

Try some of these top tips for keeping your brain in tune.

WebMD say that activity keeps your brain sharp here.

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Live the Dream - Some real-life examples of what you can achieve

We mentioned earlier that the golden years differ for everyone and everyone has a different view on life and the quality of life. You see lots of articles about living the dream of retirement, using wonderful looking models walking on a tropical beach etc which is often not reality. But below are some examples of people who have done their own golden years.

Some real life examples

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Living Will - When do you need to think about slowing down, and what are the ‘must do’ things to address?

The Living Will

We never know what might happen – what if we are struck down with a debilitating illness that stops us from communicating effectively, or what if we become unable to make decisions? Unless we say in advance what we would like to happen, our desires and wishes in this case might include decisions being made by other people which you would not have wanted.

A Living Will – often called an Advice Decision or an Advance Statement – is simply a set of written instructions setting out all the things you want to happen – a simple set of instructions such as where you want to live, how you want to be cared for and who will be placed in charge of your financial and personal affairs. You should discuss it with family beforehand – it becomes even more important if you have no family, as social services would then decide. When it’s done you can keep it safe and amend it whenever you are able or you may get family members to update it.

Helping hand - as you get older, you might need to think about what help you might need

When you need a bit more support. We will get to a stage in our lives when eventually we need more support to enable us to maintain our independence. There are so many support organisations that can come into your home to help you on a morning or provide meals etc. Guarding our independence is important to us, but if there are services there that can help why not take advantage of them?

Moving in or extending a relative’s house to create a senior one bed apartment can be a big advantage. This allows you to retain your independence but there is someone on hand to give the support if you need it. Keeping your independence as long as you can is obviously what everyone strives for but there may come a time when you need sheltered housing where there are professionals on hand who can give you more specialist medical support that a relative cannot. These housing complexes are often just like living at home but with support 24/7.

The NHS have information on housing options as you get older here.

Sheltered Housing
This is where you want to live independently but need some support. It’s normally available to over 55s only. and has support, from a warden normally, and 24-hour emergency help.
You can rent or buy sheltered housing, and these complexes aren’t rated and vary.
You’ll have to pay rent or mortgage payments, and also council tax, utility bills and normally a regular service charge, which covers cleaning, support and repairs.
AgeUK have some factsheets you can download below.

Write your memoirs

The world is continuously changing and as a more senior person you have the benefit of having lived a life and have a wealth of life experience to share with others, so jot down your memories not just for your family but for others who may in the future read all about your life and experiences.

You might think: “Me, write down my memoirs, I am not famous!”. Well you would be surprised to know you are to your family, and when you go you’re taking a lot of history with you. The world is continuously changing and as a senior citizen you have the benefit of having lived a life and you know history, both the good and bad bits. You have a wealth of life experience to share with others so jot down your memories – not just for your family but for others who may in the future read all about your life and experiences. Your descendants in generations to come will take great delight trying to understand who you were, what you was like, your personality and traits.

Writer’s Digest have an article about how to write about family in a Memoir  here.

The Self-Publishing School give 13 key elements of a memoir here.

Forgotten Voices were put together by the Imperial War Museum – see Wikipedia description here.

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Finally, there comes a time…

We’re not getting into this, as people’s views are VERY personal and private. For those left behind

Inevitably we all have to leave this world and for those left behind they have to cope with life. The memories, the habits, the loss is often hard to cope with. During the first few years of loss there is a roller coaster of emotions which can be very hard to manage. A loss can occur at any time and under differing circumstances leaving people shocked, grieving and unable to cope with the loss. There are organisations available to help.

The NHS have advice here.

Mindzone have a real story about dealing with grief on the loss of a parent – see here.

Focus on the Family have a section on Coping with death and grief as part of their Life Challenges series here.

Cruse Bereavement Care offer training here – look in particular at the loss and bereavement training.

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Jules Renard
19th-century French playwright and vaudevilliste.

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The: 101 Fun Things to Do, Exciting Everyday Activities, and Once-in-a-Lifetime Experiences for a Healthier, Happier Third Act

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A Glass Half Empty? …or Half Full?

A Children’s Book for Grown Ups

The Question of Pessimism vs. Optimism is often misunderstood, or worse yet, misinterpreted


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Living Together After Retirement:

or, There’s a Spouse in the House

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Now you’ve read about healthy ageing you might want to make a bit of a statement.  Have a look at some stuff below we think has some humour value!  We may make pennies on commission, but that’s not the point really.  Click on the image to see more details.

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All areas of health are interlinked

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Find your initial focus

You might think that physical, financial and mental health are quite separate, and for some people they are. However, often a problem in one area has a knock-on effect on others. Losing your job can lead to anxiety and depression, which can turn you to drink and impact your health.

You might have a severe issue in one area but that can lead to problems in other areas, and the people treating you for the first problem won’t be equipped to deal with these linked issues.

For example, doctors and nurses can treat you for a physical problem but can’t advise you about your job or finances.  Nor for the anxiety that comes with it, apart from prescribing some drugs, which might or might not be the best solution.

We encourage you to take a holistic view – we look at all areas and offer support across the whole spectrum.

health areas interlinked

Even this view of health is simplistic, as you’ll discover later if you go down that route.  You might want to consider overall health, or wellness or wellbeing, which include additional types of health, such as occupational health (how you are in your job).   Then there’s happiness and quality of life – how do these fit?

If you’re interested in that, click the link here to see more information.

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Living Together After Retirement:

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Health Areas in Domains

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Domains

We break down the overall concept of health or wellness into ‘bite-sized chunks’ that we can actually do something about.  The first level we call health domains. 

We like the Life of Wellness site and we have chosen the following domains.

1. Emotional Wellness: Awareness and acceptance of feelings
2. Spiritual Wellness: A search for meaning and purpose
3. Intellectual Wellness: Recognition of your creativity, knowledge and skills
4. Physical Wellness: Need for physical activity and balanced nutrition
5. Environmental Wellness: Positive awareness and impact on your environment
6. Financial Wellness: Debt reduction, cash flow balance or financial future planning
7. Occupational Wellness: Personal achievement and enrichment from your career
8. Social Wellness: Contribution to your community

Health Areas

Within each domain, we have included a number of health areas. These are specific issues that you can tackle.  Within each health area, e.g. Depression, we have built additional information and exercises which you can do to help in the area. You can create your own Action Plan to address this area, and see

Emotional: Anxiety, Compassion Fatigue, Depression, Gambling, Laughter, Narcissistic, Personality Disorder, Sleep, Stress

Environmental: Environmental Issues, Greenness

Financial: Debt, Family Finance, Financial Planning, Financial Wellness

Intellectual: IQ, Personality, Procrastination

Occupational: Jobs for Different Personality Types, Retirement Income, Work Life Balance

Physical: Alcohol, Disabilities, Dizziness, Drugs, Fitness, Food Preferences, General Health, Healthy Ageing, Illness, Nutrition, Sleep Apnea, Smoking

Social: Communication Skills, Communication Styles, Domestic Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Love Partnerships, Mental Abuse, Parenting Styles, Sexual Addiction

Spiritual: Are You Sensitive, Mystical Guidance, Spirituality

Each health area has supporting information and its own questionnaire.

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Understand Health

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Physical, financial and mental health

One definition of health is:

Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity. 

The NHS define health as: ‘We use a broad definition of health that encompasses both physical and mental health, as well as wellbeing. This means we are not only interested in whether or not people are ill or have a health condition, but also in how healthy and well they are.’

We believe we also have to consider financial health, as this can easily impact physical and mental health. Click the button to see an example of how these are connected.

 It gets more complicated…

What is Health? How about Wellness, Wellbeing or Happiness?

The Active Wellbeing Society (TAWS) define Health as a state of the overall mental and physical state of a person; the absence of disease. They define Wellbeing or wellness as a way of life that aims to enhance well-being and refers to a more holistic whole-of-life experience which also includes emotional and spiritual aspects of life.  We expand on this definition of health to include financial health and mental health, to make it synonymous with wellbeing or wellness.  

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Health domains

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We break down the overall concept of health or wellness into ‘bite-sized chunks’ that we can actually do something about.  The first level we call health domains.

We like the Life of Wellness site and we have chosen the following domains.

1. Emotional Wellness: Awareness and acceptance of feelings
2. Spiritual Wellness: A search for meaning and purpose
3. Intellectual Wellness: Recognition of your creativity, knowledge and skills
4. Physical Wellness: Need for physical activity and balanced nutrition
5. Environmental Wellness: Positive awareness and impact on your environment
6. Financial Wellness: Debt reduction, cash flow balance or financial future planning
7. Occupational Wellness: Personal achievement and enrichment from your career
8. Social Wellness: Contribution to your community

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Health Areas

Within each domain, we have included a number of health areas. These are specific issues that you can tackle.  Within each health area, e.g. Depression, once you have subscribed we have built additional information and exercises which you can do to help in the area.

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See which domains you should address

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Having established that we use 8 domains, you need to understand which you should concentrate on.

The 8 are:

  • Emotional
  • Environmental
  • Financial
  • Intellectual
  • Occupational
  • Physical
  • Social
  • Spiritual

 

You can take a questionnaire, which scores you in each domain.  You can decide which domains you are strong in, and which you need to improve.

Another analysis shows which domains you should look at, but also which domains you want to look at.

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Locus of Control

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  • We want to help people in all aspects of their health  – physical, financial and mental. We also provide detailed explanations of how overall health (or well-being) is measured.
  • We believe these things are often linked, so we try and address health holistically. We are building templates, questionnaires and exercises to help you identify what’s important to you.
  • We think people should try and take responsibility for  of their own health as much as they can.  See below for what that means.

People look at things differently.  Some people believe things happen to them, while others believe they can influence what happens to them. Technically this is called the ‘locus of control’.  People can have an Internal or external Locus of Control

So how do you see things?

Psychology Today have a 15 minute test which gives you a summary of your position you can buy the detailed results if you want to.

My Personality Test have a 10 minute test which gives you a summary.

People tend to take more responsibility (locus gets more internal) as they get older.  However, external isn’t always bad – for example if you are physically unable to do some things you can accept it and focus on the things you can do.  This American video explains the concept and gives examples of how this can affect relationships.

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Internal

  • More likely to take responsibility for actions
  • Tend to be less influenced by others

External

  • Blame outside forces for what happens
  • Don’t believe they can change their situation themselves

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Add your attitude to change - see how you view changes in your life

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Do you need to change?

No matter how healthy you are at the moment, the chances are that there are some areas you could improve. It may be that you have a real problem in one or more areas, and you would like to make some improvements.

At YouDrive we accept that there are many different degrees of ‘not wellness’ in a large number of different health areas, ranging from physical illness such as covid-19 through mental illness such as anxiety through to financial problems like debt.  We try and help where the problem ranges from ‘slight’ to quite bad’ – after this expert help and intervention may be needed.

However, especially in these times, we have to try and make these changes ourselves, possibly with some help from others, whether remotely or face to face.

The thing is, to make an improvement we have to change some things.

This involves changing our behaviour in some respects, and that’s not always easy.

Henry Ford, the creator of the assembly line, is quoted as saying “if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got”.  

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Another way of looking at this: “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.” – attributed to Albert Einstein.

Consequently we need to make some changes.  The problem is that we have already developed a lot of habits, some of which we need to break and replace by better ones.  Some of our bad habits have become entrenched, and the bad results they create in turn engender further bad habits to develop – in effect the bad habits can feed on themselves.

We need to understand how we can make changes and stick to them, and that’s what this part of your health profile is about.

It will involve some learning, through reading, some videos and some additional information and also seeing how you react to change currently.

It will also ask you to consider whether you feel you are in charge of your future, or whether you feel it’s all fate.

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Assess your overall health using a health questionnaire

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At YouDrive we try and help people improve their health. We use ‘health’ but we understand there are other terms such as wellbeing or even happiness that reflect how we are doing in our lives – if you’re interested in the different definitions and ideas see our page on the subject.

We want to help whether you have a particular problem – physical, financial or mental – or if you just want to improve some specific part of your life or just make some improvements overall.

You’d be surprised, but there has been a serious amount of scientific work done in this area over the last twenty years.

So first we allow you to assess your current health (or wellbeing, or happiness).  We do this by questionnaire.  Which one is determined by the type of person you are:

  1. You understand yourself well and want a quick overview of your health and wellness, and will drill down in any areas needing work
  2. You want to do a more detailed assessment and then focus on areas you’re already aware of
  3. You want to look at the whole situation in more detail across all the health domains.

By the way, we take your privacy seriously – we collect information that you choose to provide but we de-identify it as much as possible and will never share it with anyone without your explicit consent.

You can then drill down into some specific areas and there are more questionnaires to see your situation in these particular areas.  We provide you with specific information and refer you to other potential aspects of help. Our next step is to build a personalised action plan – for now we will make a suggestion for you to develop your own plan and then after a time you can see whether this has had a positive impact by retaking the test.

In future we will be engaging with medical and behavioural specialists to devise action plans for individual people with specific situations.

We have an overall questionnaire which you can complete which will assess your current state.

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Values, Attitudes and Beliefs

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We all have our beliefs, attitudes and values – these have developed throughout our life based on who we are and what we have done. Let’s look at what these are.

The University of Reading explain: “People’s values, beliefs and attitudes are formed and bonded over time through the influences of family, friends, society and life experiences. So, by the time you’re an adult, you can hold very definite views on just about everything with a sense of “no one is going to change my mind”.

The combination of your personal values, beliefs and attitudes are your moral principles that guide you in life and affect your behaviour. However, your views can wildly differ to others and in an institution such as a school, these beliefs may be counter to the values of the school, child development or indeed the law.” 

Let’s look more closely at the differences between beliefs, attitudes and values.

Beliefs

These come from real experiences – we think our beliefs are based on reality, but in fact our beliefs colour our experiences; also, an original experience e.g. when we were a child is not the same as what’s happening now. Beliefs can be moral, religious or cultural and reflect who we are. They can be rational (‘it gets colder in winter’) or irrational (‘I am never going to make something of myself’).

Attitudes

This is an immediate belief or disposition about something specific. It is a recurring group of beliefs and behaviours aimed at specific groups, people, ideas or objects. They will normally be positive or negative and we will always behave that way to the target group. Examples of attitudes include confidence (I can or can’t do something), grateful (I an entitled to / grateful for XXX) and cheerful (I am generally happy / miserable).

Values

These are things (principles or qualities) that we hold in high regard or consider to be worthwhile or right / wrong. They are formed by a belief related to the worth of something – an idea or behaviour. Some values are common (e.g. family comes first, the value of friendship) or cultural (which the whole community have – see video at Study.com here)

The theory

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Expectancy Value Theory suggests you balance your beliefs about something with the value you attach to it. The Theory of Reasoned Action suggests that beliefs and evaluation about behavioural outcomes determine attitudes, and intentions lead directly to behaviour.

Beliefs

Expressions of confidence – can change over time

Attitudes

Learned predispositions to something – are subject to change

Values

Ideals that guide our behaviour – Generally long lasting and often need life changing experience to change

Iceberg demonstrating implicit and explicit bias – from Owlcation

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A Butterfly Life: 4 Keys to More Happiness, Better Health and Letting Your True Self Shine

Times of change can be a challenge, no doubt! Whether it’s a relationship breakup, job loss, or being diagnosed with a serious health issue. Or you may WANT things to be different, but it feels a little scary or overwhelming. The butterfly reminds us change can be beautiful, even necessary, in order to realize our full potential and live our best life.