We all age...hopefully

Talk to any person over 80 and ask them a simple question - what one thing about life have they noted. They will often say ‘Time Flies’. They cannot believe how fast their life has gone.

So you must try to enjoy your life and make the most of it - it's not a rehearsal!

Now is the time to make the changes you need to make to become the best you can be.

'Life is a journey, not a destination.'

Ralph Waldo Emerson

If our journey through life is like a road, the type of journey we have is determined by the choices our parents made and the choices we make. YouDrive Health is about helping you make the best choices for you – as a parent, as an adult and as you get older and more experienced. It’s about lifestyle as well as addressing specific health issues.

Our families often have many generations, and we can remember how things were when we were children – people in their fifties seemed really old. As we age our perspectives change and we see things differently. Often we think we know everything when we are in our 20s and 30s but don’t realise until we are 50 or 60 that we didn’t know half what we know now.

It’s a fact that some people are more fortunate than others in life. Some people are lucky and inherit money, some win the lottery, others work hard through their lives for little and others just enjoy themselves.

It’s about making the most of the journey. Don’t wait to win the lottery – find another way of achieving your goals. The choices you make affect the lifestyle you have.

Try not to be envious or jealous – instead make the most of what you’ve got and be the best you can be.

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Life is in five stages

We’ve split life into five stages , then we also look at lifestyle, which is how you live your life. Click on the button in any area to go to that page.

Conception, maternity and birth

Life Journey - starting the journey is all about providing help, experience, guidance and support to people, parents, children who are going through this stage. Life Journey - early years starts even before conception because there is so much to consider.

We consider the four building blocks of life and DNA.

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Childhood and Growing Up

This section looks at the time before a child is even conceived, through birth, childhood and adolescence through to late teens. The choices you make at this stage can have an enormous impact on your child’s future.

We are born and grow up. During this time, we are learning about life. Our parents are there to provide that guiding influence. We learn about failure, success, to win, to lose. We learn about emotion, feelings, respect, anger, fear and hope. We are educated and guided for the next stage.

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Teens

This section looks at the teen years - possibly one of the most influential periods of a person's life, and certainly a period where there is most change. Although teens are mini-adults, there is so much they don't know, although they aren't often aware of that!

This is a period where parents have the most difficulty communicating with their children, understanding what's going on in their lives and managing a changing relationship.

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Adulthood and Work

This section looks at the time after leaving education, into and through adulthood up to the time retirement becomes a real option – around sixty for some people. The choices you make affect the life you lead. If something isn’t going as well as you’d want, then IT’S IN YOUR POWER to change it!

We enter the world of adult life. We go to work, we build relationships, we start a family, we travel and learn about the wider world and how we fit in. We experience tragedy and sadness as well as elation. We build wealth and status, recognition and achievement. We are preparing for the next stage of life.

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Healthy Ageing

This section looks at the time we start slowing down at work, think about enjoying retirement and getting old happily. It’s our last chance to make changes to our lives which can give us a better lifestyle.

Healthy ageing into retirement.

We build up, hopefully, not just financial wealth in retirement but also life experience, physical health, mental health and wisdom. What happens in this latter stage is often driven by what you did and where you came from in the previous stages.

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Lifestyle

LIFEstyle is about how we live our lives. How we manage during the journey. What we do to ourselves physically, mentally and emotionally. How we cope with life’s obstacles. Our lifestyle can be scored based upon the choices we made or are making.Recklessness and damaging behaviour at a younger age may cost you at an older age. Each LIFEstyle stage impacts on the next, so if we lived life too hard and full in our working life this may cost us our physical health, mobility or mental health in the latter stages of our life.

Your LIFEstyle indicator can be determined at all stages and act as a barometer to good living. It can help you balance your life and make sure you don’t over do it in areas that may cost you in later life. We are building an indicator which will tell you your LIFEstyle score.

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Healthy Ageing

The UK Government introduced an initiative in 2018 called Healthy Ageing. The initiative is focused on living healthier in retirement. Currently on average we live 20 years after we retire. Of those 20 years only 10 are classified as in good health. The Government is proposing a number of initiatives that will increase this number by five years so we can enjoy at least 15 healthy years in retirement as a first target.

In a nutshell we may be living longer but the quality of that life isn’t that good at times. The quality of life can often be improved by having a more balanced life in our earlier life.

The areas covered are:

1. Sustaining physical activity 2. Maintaining health at work 3. Designing for age-friendly homes 4. Managing common complaints of ageing 5. Living well with cognitive impairment 6. Supporting social connections 7. Creating healthy and active places.

Our LIFEstyle Journey will encompass these initiatives so that you can take your own responsibility in line with the Government scheme.

It’s not just about ageing – it’s about learning too. Never stop learning. We like Erik Eriksen’s theory of psychsocial development from verywellmind.

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YouDriveHealth

At YouDriveHealth we can provide you with information, tools, calculators and also support for may aspects of health – physical, financial and mental. If you register by entering your email address then when you sign in you can comment and contribute.

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All areas of health are interlinked

Find your initial focus

You might think that physical, financial and mental health are quite separate, and for some people they are. However, often a problem in one area has a knock-on effect on others. Losing your job can lead to anxiety and depression, which can turn you to drink and impact your health.

You might have a severe issue in one area but that can lead to problems in other areas, and the people treating you for the first problem won’t be equipped to deal with these linked issues.

For example, doctors and nurses can treat you for a physical problem but can’t advise you about your job or finances. Nor for the anxiety that comes with it, apart from prescribing some drugs, which might or might not be the best solution.

We encourage you to take a holistic view – we look at all areas and offer support across the whole spectrum.

Even this view of health is simplistic, as you’ll discover later if you go down that route. You might want to consider overall health, or wellness or wellbeing, which include additional types of health, such as occupational health (how you are in your job). Then there’s happiness and quality of life – how do these fit?

If you’re interested in that, click the link here to see more information.

Health Areas in Domains

Domains

We break down the overall concept of health or wellness into ‘bite-sized chunks’ that we can actually do something about. The first level we call health domains.

We like the Life of Wellness site and we have chosen the following domains.

1. Emotional Wellness: Awareness and acceptance of feelings
2. Spiritual Wellness: A search for meaning and purpose
3. Intellectual Wellness: Recognition of your creativity, knowledge and skills
4. Physical Wellness: Need for physical activity and balanced nutrition
5. Environmental Wellness: Positive awareness and impact on your environment
6. Financial Wellness: Debt reduction, cash flow balance or financial future planning
7. Occupational Wellness: Personal achievement and enrichment from your career
8. Social Wellness: Contribution to your community

Health Areas

Within each domain, we have included a number of health areas. These are specific issues that you can tackle. Within each health area, e.g. Depression, we have built additional information and exercises which you can do to help in the area. You can create your own Action Plan to address this area, and see

Emotional: Anxiety, Compassion Fatigue, Depression, Gambling, Laughter, Narcissistic, Personality Disorder, Sleep, Stress

Environmental: Environmental Issues, Greenness

Financial: Debt, Family Finance, Financial Planning, Financial Wellness

Intellectual: IQ, Personality, Procrastination

Occupational: Jobs for Different Personality Types, Retirement Income, Work Life Balance

Physical: Alcohol, Disabilities, Dizziness, Drugs, Fitness, Food Preferences, General Health, Healthy Ageing, Illness, Nutrition, Sleep Apnea, Smoking

Social: Communication Skills, Communication Styles, Domestic Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Love Partnerships, Mental Abuse, Parenting Styles, Sexual Addiction

Spiritual: Are You Sensitive, Mystical Guidance, Spirituality

Each health area has supporting information and its own questionnaire.

Physical, financial and mental health

One definition of health is:

Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.

The NHS define health as: ‘We use a broad definition of health that encompasses both physical and mental health, as well as wellbeing. This means we are not only interested in whether or not people are ill or have a health condition, but also in how healthy and well they are.’

We believe we also have to consider financial health, as this can easily impact physical and mental health. Click the button to see an example of how these are connected.

It gets more complicated…

What is Health? How about Wellness, Wellbeing or Happiness?

The Active Wellbeing Society (TAWS) define Health as a state of the overall mental and physical state of a person; the absence of disease. They define Wellbeing or wellness as a way of life that aims to enhance well-being and refers to a more holistic whole-of-life experience which also includes emotional and spiritual aspects of life. We expand on this definition of health to include financial health and mental health, to make it synonymous with wellbeing or wellness.

Health domains

We break down the overall concept of health or wellness into ‘bite-sized chunks’ that we can actually do something about. The first level we call health domains.

We like the Life of Wellness site and we have chosen the following domains.

Health Areas

Within each domain, we have included a number of health areas. These are specific issues that you can tackle. Within each health area, e.g. Depression, once you have subscribed we have built additional information and exercises which you can do to help in the area.

See which domains you should address

Having established that we use 8 domains, you need to understand which you should concentrate on.

The 8 are:

Emotional
Environmental
Financial
Intellectual
Occupational
Physical
Social
Spiritual

You can take a questionnaire, which scores you in each domain. You can decide which domains you are strong in, and which you need to improve.

Another analysis shows which domains you should look at, but also which domains you want to look at.

Locus of Control

We want to help people in all aspects of their health – physical, financial and mental. We also provide detailed explanations of how overall health (or well-being) is measured.
We believe these things are often linked, so we try and address health holistically. We are building templates, questionnaires and exercises to help you identify what’s important to you.
We think people should try and take responsibility for of their own health as much as they can. See below for what that means.

People look at things differently. Some people believe things happen to them, while others believe they can influence what happens to them. Technically this is called the ‘locus of control’. People can have an Internal or external Locus of Control

So how do you see things?

Psychology Today have a 15 minute test which gives you a summary of your position you can buy the detailed results if you want to.

My Personality Test have a 10 minute test which gives you a summary.

People tend to take more responsibility (locus gets more internal) as they get older. However, external isn’t always bad – for example if you are physically unable to do some things you can accept it and focus on the things you can do. This American video explains the concept and gives examples of how this can affect relationships.

Internal

More likely to take responsibility for actions
Tend to be less influenced by others

External

Blame outside forces for what happens
Don’t believe they can change their situation themselves

Add your attitude to change - see how you view changes in your life

Do you need to change?

No matter how healthy you are at the moment, the chances are that there are some areas you could improve. It may be that you have a real problem in one or more areas, and you would like to make some improvements.

At YouDrive we accept that there are many different degrees of ‘not wellness’ in a large number of different health areas, ranging from physical illness such as covid-19 through mental illness such as anxiety through to financial problems like debt. We try and help where the problem ranges from ‘slight’ to quite bad’ – after this expert help and intervention may be needed.

However, especially in these times, we have to try and make these changes ourselves, possibly with some help from others, whether remotely or face to face.

The thing is, to make an improvement we have to change some things.

This involves changing our behaviour in some respects, and that’s not always easy.

Henry Ford, the creator of the assembly line, is quoted as saying “if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got”.

Another way of looking at this: “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.” – attributed to Albert Einstein.

Consequently we need to make some changes. The problem is that we have already developed a lot of habits, some of which we need to break and replace by better ones. Some of our bad habits have become entrenched, and the bad results they create in turn engender further bad habits to develop – in effect the bad habits can feed on themselves.

We need to understand how we can make changes and stick to them, and that’s what this part of your health profile is about.

It will involve some learning, through reading, some videos and some additional information and also seeing how you react to change currently.

It will also ask you to consider whether you feel you are in charge of your future, or whether you feel it’s all fate.

Assess your overall health using a health questionnaire

At YouDrive we try and help people improve their health. We use ‘health’ but we understand there are other terms such as wellbeing or even happiness that reflect how we are doing in our lives – if you’re interested in the different definitions and ideas see our page on the subject.

We want to help whether you have a particular problem – physical, financial or mental – or if you just want to improve some specific part of your life or just make some improvements overall.

You’d be surprised, but there has been a serious amount of scientific work done in this area over the last twenty years.

So first we allow you to assess your current health (or wellbeing, or happiness). We do this by questionnaire. Which one is determined by the type of person you are:

You understand yourself well and want a quick overview of your health and wellness, and will drill down in any areas needing work
You want to do a more detailed assessment and then focus on areas you’re already aware of
You want to look at the whole situation in more detail across all the health domains.

By the way, we take your privacy seriously – we collect information that you choose to provide but we de-identify it as much as possible and will never share it with anyone without your explicit consent.

You can then drill down into some specific areas and there are more questionnaires to see your situation in these particular areas. We provide you with specific information and refer you to other potential aspects of help. Our next step is to build a personalised action plan – for now we will make a suggestion for you to develop your own plan and then after a time you can see whether this has had a positive impact by retaking the test.

In future we will be engaging with medical and behavioural specialists to devise action plans for individual people with specific situations.

We have an overall questionnaire which you can complete which will assess your current state.

Values, Attitudes and Beliefs

We all have our beliefs, attitudes and values – these have developed throughout our life based on who we are and what we have done. Let’s look at what these are.

The University of Reading explain: “People’s values, beliefs and attitudes are formed and bonded over time through the influences of family, friends, society and life experiences. So, by the time you’re an adult, you can hold very definite views on just about everything with a sense of “no one is going to change my mind”.

The combination of your personal values, beliefs and attitudes are your moral principles that guide you in life and affect your behaviour. However, your views can wildly differ to others and in an institution such as a school, these beliefs may be counter to the values of the school, child development or indeed the law.”

Let’s look more closely at the differences between beliefs, attitudes and values.

Beliefs

These come from real experiences – we think our beliefs are based on reality, but in fact our beliefs colour our experiences; also, an original experience e.g. when we were a child is not the same as what’s happening now. Beliefs can be moral, religious or cultural and reflect who we are. They can be rational (‘it gets colder in winter’) or irrational (‘I am never going to make something of myself’).

Attitudes

This is an immediate belief or disposition about something specific. It is a recurring group of beliefs and behaviours aimed at specific groups, people, ideas or objects. They will normally be positive or negative and we will always behave that way to the target group. Examples of attitudes include confidence (I can or can’t do something), grateful (I an entitled to / grateful for XXX) and cheerful (I am generally happy / miserable).

Values

These are things (principles or qualities) that we hold in high regard or consider to be worthwhile or right / wrong. They are formed by a belief related to the worth of something – an idea or behaviour. Some values are common (e.g. family comes first, the value of friendship) or cultural (which the whole community have – see video at Study.com here)

The theory

Links to Wikipedia

Expectancy Value Theory suggests you balance your beliefs about something with the value you attach to it. The Theory of Reasoned Action suggests that beliefs and evaluation about behavioural outcomes determine attitudes, and intentions lead directly to behaviour.

Beliefs

Expressions of confidence – can change over time

Attitudes

Learned predispositions to something – are subject to change

Values

Ideals that guide our behaviour – Generally long lasting and often need life changing experience to change

Iceberg demonstrating implicit and explicit bias – from Owlcation

A Butterfly Life: 4 Keys to More Happiness, Better Health and Letting Your True Self Shine

Times of change can be a challenge, no doubt! Whether it’s a relationship breakup, job loss, or being diagnosed with a serious health issue. Or you may WANT things to be different, but it feels a little scary or overwhelming. The butterfly reminds us change can be beautiful, even necessary, in order to realize our full potential and live our best life.

We all age...hopefully

Life is in five stages

Conception, maternity and birth

Childhood and Growing Up

Teens

Adulthood and Work

Healthy Ageing

Lifestyle

Healthy Ageing

YouDriveHealth

All areas of health are interlinked

Find your initial focus

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Health Areas in Domains

Domains

Health Areas

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Understand Health

Physical, financial and mental health

What is Health? How about Wellness, Wellbeing or Happiness?

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Health domains

Health Areas

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See which domains you should address

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Locus of Control

So how do you see things?

Internal

External

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Add your attitude to change - see how you view changes in your life

Do you need to change?

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Assess your overall health using a health questionnaire

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Values, Attitudes and Beliefs

Beliefs

Attitudes

Values

The theory

Beliefs

Attitudes

Values

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A Butterfly Life: 4 Keys to More Happiness, Better Health and Letting Your True Self Shine